The Break up

Once again I am going through a break up and I as getting advice from a very wise women a thought crosses my mind. She tells me that a relationship takes you to put in all you have when you can so its there to draw on when you need it like a bank account. This is an analogy I have never heard before but makes perfect since. Each person in a relationship deposits (gives to) into the bank (relationship) and when needed we make withdraws. It makes perfect since to me. However this relationship at hand when I really need to make a withdraw from it and he had emptied the account and still wanted me to make deposits. As this conversation goes on she tells me it is time for me to find a new bank with better interested. I however am not ready for that. I need time for me. To figure out myself all over again and work on me. Which comes me point. How come after every relationship women feel as if they need to work on them self? How is it after a relationship ends we become broken and need to put the pieces together before we can go on to the next relationship? As another chapter ends I now need to recreate me and remember me before I was an us.